To My Dearest of all Friends,
Love is amazing and if you ever get a chance to experience it, then baby, you must be blessed! Now, I'm not talking about that temporary kind of love, or the feel good 'for now' kind of love. I'm talking about that genuine type of love that grows better with time like fine wine! Yeah, that kind of love. That kind of love wakes you up in the morning, protects you throughout the day and when you are about to do something stupid, warns you of the outcome. The love I'm talking about doesn't come easy but it comes with much hard work and dedication.
The type of love I'm talking about has a goal and its goals are to perfect and to nurture not to hurt or to hold back the people who desire it. I know you think you are in love, but baby let me tell you, If you don't have the character that is required to love how can you say you are in love?
Love is the actual journey, not the destination. The journey is what makes love eternal as long as you continue to express the character traits of love such as, patience (willingness to wait), generosity (giving as much as receiving), Humility (mutual respect), Meek (mild mannered and even tempered;easy to get along with) , gentile (slow to anger), having a Kind Heart (compassion, empathy; having a nurturing spirit) Passion (drive; determination to succeed). In any loving relationship all of these character traits should be in action When you can express these character traits of love that is how you know you are in love.
So you think you are in love huh? Well I think you need to rethink that! Love doesn't boss you around and treat you like an object to possess rather than a free thinking person who has their own emotions and feelings. Love is not disrespect you by calling me a "Bitch" or a "Whore". Love doesn't take away your self worth, instead it adds to it! You, my dear, have mistaken passion with possession. Nobody belongs to anyone! You can't make anyone love you if they don't want to. There is no amount of sex that is going to keep a man from cheating on you. There is no amount of phone calls text messages and emails that will make him want you more! All that is just bothersome and aggravation and will only lead you to be labeled as 'stalker' or 'pest'! Sweetie, patience is a virtue we all can stand to use more of but you need to exercise it a little more than most because you are doing too much!
Arguing to the point of violence is not him showing you care or vice verse. All that is going to to is get you both put in jail. You have to learn to exercise meekness! Be even tempered, don't be so quick to get angry and jealous. You will find that the more you listen to what is being said, the better your understanding of who you got your self hooked up to. I know you think you are being strong but sometimes are biggest strength is holding your tongue.
See, you are young, therefore you don't know your worth yet and right now you think the love I am talking about is lame. You want one of these guys that run around here imitating what they see on t.v. with their clothes over sized with their pants hanging below their waist. The media portrays slop as the new standard for sex appeal but its not reality. Its just a gimmick to get you to buy into their falsehoods and fake doctrines and fads. They are a made up persona. Don't you allow them to set the standard for what kind of man you desire to be with. You have a brain and you are able to make up your own mind!
Don't stoop so low to pick up a dollar bill when you can stand tall and receive something that is far more valuable, your self respect and the knowledge of your worth! That is something only God's Love can give you. You deserve to be loved and experience love and I hope you experience it so you can see that no amount of money can give you the joy of knowing your worth and what real love feels like!
