Happily Never After: The Relationship Between Cinderella and Peter Pan

How can a relationship between Cinderella and Peter Pan workout?  Peter Pan refuses to grow up and be a Prince Charming. Cinderella wants her happily ever after, but there is always drama. Peter wants to hang out with the Lost Boys! Cinderella thinks that the Lost Boys are a waste of his time. The time he spends with those Boys, he could be out working. 

Peter Pan is frustrated because Cinderella has so many shoes that she loses her glass slippers. Peter doesn't want to get a job. He just wants to play basketball with the Lost Boys. Peter hates to work because that means he has to grow up. Peter is 35 years old. Instead, wants to be taken care of and is looking for a Wendy. Cinderella is 30 and has to scrub floors, cook, clean chimneys and is waiting on the day where her Prince will rescue her from her life of hardship. This is their story...

 

Cinderella is a victim of circumstance. She is a single woman, who just can't seem to get it together. No matter how hard she works, she just can't seem to find the life she wants. She is a dreamer who reads the latest romance novels and thinks her life should be a Romantic Comedy and that there is a Prince Charming out there looking for her. She holds on to the hope by reading her bible daily and her favorite scripture is the verse "... man who findeth a wife, findeth a good thing.." . She holds on to that word so much that she never goes anywhere. She stays home on her off days from grueling days at work. She cuts out pictures of wedding dresses from her favorite magazines and she knows just what her husband will look like. Handsome, Tall, and dark. She never goes out on dates, or anywhere for that matter. She just sits at home and waits for her Prince to rescue her from her boring mundane life.

Peter Pan is a victim of himself. He is a single man with lots of dreams but lacks the focus it takes to see them through. So he dabbles in a bit of everything. He calls himself a jack of all trades. His main focus is to have a good time. He used to be a high school basketball star, which is his only claim to fame. He loves to live close to home because people still remember him in his glory days. He is the type guy that loves to play the love game but never really wants to settle down, not for real. He just tells the women that just so he can get them in bed. Every relationship he gets into never really lasts as long as his high school sweetheart because that was when he thought he was at his best. Instead, he chases the past by hanging out with the Lost Boys reminiscing on the good old days and playing basketball at the local parks. Even though he is in his thirties, he still feels like he isn't ready to settle down into a committed relationship. He can't keep a job long enough to provide for a family because he hates to work. Peter's dream is to have family where he is the stay at home father so he can play games with his kids and never have to work. Peter is looking for a caretaker, someone who can take care of him. Peter wants a  mommy.

Well, one day Cinderella decides to take her co worker's advice and try online dating. Cinderella works so much that she has no time for dating. Well, she comes across Peter, who is also trying online dating, but only as a prank. He has no intentions of finding love, he just created a profile for shits and giggles! Actually one of the Lost Boys created the list for him. Well, they both get to talking, and Peter decides to go out with her because she has a great job with benefits. Meanwhile Cinderella is excited because Peter is very charming and handsome and he wants to spend time with her.
They meet, and Peter decides he likes what he sees! He then becomes interested in getting to know her better. They decide to start dating. Well, as time goes on Cinderella is really starting to fall for Peter, so she brings up the subject of commitment. After all, Cinderella is on a time clock. She wants to have three children before she turns thirty five. 
Well, at first, Peter is hesitant about getting in a relationship, but after a few more dates, he gives in. Besides, Cinderella is not giving up the goods unless he commits to her and he has been single for a while. So they decide to make it official and they started to live happily ever after up until she meets the lost boys. The Lost Boys are a group of guys that Peter hangs out with. They are his inner circle of close friends that he has known his entire life. They are also rowdy, obnoxious and rude. They had no manners and they did not show her any respect.
 Most of all, Cinderella wanted a Prince, and what she got was a frog whenever Peter would hang out with the Lost Boys. Cinderella brought it to Peter's attention but Peter loved the Boys. They were his friends and he didn't feel like he had to choose. Cinderella was confused because her Prince Charming was suppose to choose her over everyone else. But that didn't happen. The more time Peter spent with the Lost Boys, the further apart they became. All of a sudden Peter decides to call it quits because he realized that he really never wanted to be with Cinderella in the first place. He missed Wendy, his high school sweetheart and nothing or no one compared to her because Wendy loved the Lost Boys. She read them stories, washed their clothes and even played with them whenever she visited. Plus, Cinderella was too needy, expensive and sucked up all of his space!  So they parted ways. Peter  is still searching for his Wendy, and Cinderella  is still waiting on her Prince Charming.

Which character type are you, Cinderella, Wendy, Peter Pan or Prince Charming?

The Journey of What Real Love Feels Like

 To My Dearest of all Friends,
Love is amazing and if you ever get a chance to experience it, then baby, you must be blessed! Now, I'm not talking about that temporary kind of love, or the feel good 'for now' kind of love. I'm talking about that genuine type of love that grows better with time like fine wine! Yeah, that kind of love. That kind of love wakes you up in the morning, protects you throughout the day and when you are about to do something stupid, warns you of the outcome. The love I'm talking about doesn't come easy but it comes with much hard work and dedication. 
The type of love I'm talking about has a goal and its goals are to perfect and to nurture not to hurt or to hold back the people who desire it. I know you think you are in love, but baby let me tell you, If you don't have the character that is required to love how can you say you are in love?
 Love is the actual journey, not the destination. The journey is what makes love eternal as long as you continue to express the character traits of love such as,  patience (willingness to wait), generosity (giving as much as receiving), Humility (mutual respect), Meek (mild mannered and even tempered;easy to get along with) , gentile (slow to anger), having a Kind Heart (compassion, empathy; having a nurturing spirit) Passion (drive; determination to succeed). In any loving relationship all of these character traits should be in action  When you can express these character traits of love that is how you know you are in love.
So you think you are in love huh? Well I think you need to rethink that! Love doesn't boss you around and treat you like an object to possess rather than a free thinking person who has their own emotions and feelings. Love is not disrespect you by calling me  a "Bitch" or a "Whore". Love doesn't take away your self worth, instead it adds to it! You, my dear, have mistaken passion with possession. Nobody belongs to anyone! You can't make anyone love you if they don't  want to. There is no amount of sex that is going to keep a man from cheating on you. There is no amount of phone calls text messages and emails that will make him want you more! All that is just bothersome and aggravation  and will only lead you to be labeled as 'stalker' or 'pest'! Sweetie, patience is a virtue we all can stand to use more of but you need to exercise it a little more than most because you are doing too much!
Arguing to the point of violence is not him showing you care or vice verse. All that is going to to is get you both put in jail. You have to learn to exercise meekness! Be even tempered, don't be so quick to get angry and jealous. You will find that the more you listen to what is being said, the better your understanding of who you got your self hooked up to. I know you think you are being strong but sometimes are biggest strength is holding your tongue.
See, you are young, therefore you don't know your worth yet and right now you think the love I am talking about is lame. You want one of these guys that run around here imitating what they see on t.v. with their clothes over sized with their pants hanging below their waist. The media portrays slop as the new standard for sex appeal but its not reality. Its just a gimmick to get you to buy into their falsehoods and fake doctrines and fads. They are  a made up persona. Don't you allow them to set the standard for what kind of man you desire to be with. You have a brain and you are able to make up your own mind!
Don't stoop so low to pick up a dollar bill when you can stand tall and receive something that is far more valuable, your self respect and the knowledge of your worth! That is something only God's Love can give you. You deserve to be loved and experience love and I hope you experience it so you can see that no amount of money can give you the joy of knowing your worth and what real love feels like!

Looking for Mr. Right: Never Found Him But Came Pretty Damn Close!

Dear Mr. Right,
Judging by the men I have dated in the past, I have yet to meet you and I am beginning to think I never will. However, if there was anyone who comes close to being you, it would have to be my boyfriend Justice. He is smart, funny, he loves to cook, and his teeth aren't crooked. I love nice teeth! And every morning, before he kisses me, he brushes them. How awesome is that?!
When I first met Justice, I didn't think he was much to look at. He definitely was not my first choice. In order for a shallow princess like myself to accept a guy like Justice, I had to kiss a few frogs and I met a real toad named Brant.

 Brant was his name and he was FINE! I always dated the most attractive guys, looking for Mr. Right! I thought that you couldn't be anyone other than someone with a nice body, great hair and flawless skin and teeth! I always looked at the package instead of its contents! Brant was sexy, and he had great since of humor! Our first date he invited me to a barbecue with his friends at Summerlin Park!
It was fun! His friends were funny and we always had fun together.  The more dates we went on the more comfortable he got around me. We began hanging around his friends more and  I think that is when things start to get a little weird and change for the worse.
I can remember an incident where one of his friends needed a ride to work and he asked me to borrow my car. No big deal, I told him that I would tag along  because I need to make a stop along the way! So, when we go to pick up his friend, he brings his other guy along that I have never met. Now, Brant and I were dating at the time, and I thought Brant could never do any wrong.
When a group of guys get together they can be terribly immature.  Well, Brant's friends start making jokes about girls, and every girl they passed by that had short skirts or tight clothes on, the whistled and made insidious comments!
They went even further by rolling down the car window and yell,
" Hey baby, what you got in them jeans? Anything for me?!" 
I was mortified and shamefully embarrassed because my car windows are not tinted and they see me in the car like I am co-signing on their idiotic behavior. Then they start making fun of me by telling Brant that he is soft for wanting to be with me all the time! Then I notice that Brant started to feel some peer pressure and decides he has to save face and starts acting out of his character by shouting and cursing like he was some kind of a rancid animal!
Then he says,
" Hell, I'm not tied down, I can do what the hell I want, when I want!"
Then he starts to  also comment on women and acting a total ass in front of me like I was just one of the boys! I never said anything to him after that. I just felt to uncomfortable and humiliated! All I could think about is how the hell I could have ever thought that he could ever pass for being Mr. Right! I guess looks aren't important after all.
 I broke up with him a few weeks after that. I couldn't be with a guy that took my friendship for granted or let his friends dictate his life by peer pressure. Any grown man that can be swayed by his friends must suffer from some sort of identity crisis or something. Its just too weird!
It wasn't until after I met Justice, that I realized why Brant and I couldn't work. Brant became too comfortable with me. He took my friendship for granted and started acting like I was his homeboy instead of his girlfriend.
There are just some things a girlfriend should never hear or see her boyfriend do. Although I admire his transparency and honesty, I couldn't help but feel that he got too complacent. I wanted to be set apart from everyone else, not be equal to them. I wanted to be that special place he goes to when he wants to be pure and special. I wanted him to treat me the way Justice treats me now-with love and kindness.
Justice never disrespects me and never allows anyone else to do so either. He is very respectful and his personality is age appropriate! Although he is 32 years old, he looks older because of his beard but, his smile tells his youth, and his eyes sparkle with integrity and grace. Most of all, our relationship is OURS, and he doesn't allow his friends to pass judgement on it because it doesn't belong to them. Justice is the type of man that values my love for him instead of condemning it! He nurtures and edifies it and always makes time for it because he cares just that much for me. I never really experienced that with any other guy, and although he is not as fine on the outside like Brant, his character more than makes up for any imperfections that he may have.

I never thought that I could ever care about someone based on how they treated me rather than how they look but now that I have grown up, I can honestly say that if you do exist Mr. Right; Justice, although he may not be you, he comes pretty damn close!

The Wish Of A Fallen Star

Dear Lord,
Damn. If you would have told me that I would have died like this (drowning butt naked in my own bath water) 25 years ago, then maybe I would have made some better choices with my life. Well, for one, I would never have started using drugs, smoking dope and snorting cocaine. You know, its funny how people always blamed Ricky for my drug habit but I started using drugs long before I met him. Hell, if it wasn't for the dope, he and I would have never met. Ricky and I had the same dope pusher, Greg. We would frequent the same Hollywood after-parties and that's when the fun started! The after party was originally coined after the Award Show's official party because there were no drugs being had there. So, usually we "Celebrities" and " Superstars" would meet up at someone's mansion and throw down on some cocaine, marijuana, etc. I was 16 when I did my first line of coke and Ricky was no where to be found! I don't think he was even born yet!
Ricky, like me, was also an entertainer but he sold himself in the industry as a bad boy! He was  a true rebel. He was a member of a boy band and got kicked out after they decided not to make him the lead singer. Instead he went solo and made a few hit songs. Me? I was under contract. I did my dirt in the dark. The record company fostered my image. A young fresh-faced beauty who could melt your heart with just one octave. I could sing! I had raw talent and I knew how to work a crowd! But my managers had such a tight leash on me that I was never allowed to express myself freely EXCEPT on stage! I loved every minute of it! It used to be so much fun! But I think I came up in this type of industry too young-plucked right out of my church choir at the age of 14. My manager back then said that with a little pruning, I could easily become one of the greats and he was right!
I never knew how much of an impact I had on the music industry as a whole. I was 19 and I had just released my first album. I was too young to realize the legacy I was creating for many artists to come. Besides, I wasn't trying to leave a legacy. I just wanted to sing! I was just having some fun. Being on stage was so much fun and such a thrill, I wanted to feel that way all the time! Cocaine and alcohol did that for me.  I Overdosed for the first time right after I won my first Grammy. The record company put a spin on it and leaked a fake story that I was pregnant and had lost the baby. After that, I had a heart to heart talk with my mother and a few close friends and decided to cool it for a while. I didn't quit my drug habit, I just cut back on how many lines I snorted before every performance. Lord, if I knew then what I know now!
Music was my life and it kept me young. But there is only so much you can do to this body before it gives out on you. My spirit was young and vibrant but my body was old because of the wear and tear I put on it because of the drugs and heavy smoking and drinking. I was in my 40s when I took my last breath, but I looked 60. When I stepped out of my body, I saw myself as everyone else saw me and I felt anger growing inside me for the last time. It was only by the grace of you Lord that I survived that long.
 Oh well, my life is over now. I've made some decisions that I can't take back. But Lord, if you were to grant me one wish, I promise you I wouldn't waste it like I wasted my vessel of life. My wish is for every one who ever had a dream or a purpose and had lost their way to pray. Pray for the courage to stand in temptation. Pray for the will to overcome the lusts and the sins of this world. Pray for the ones that have, and the ones that have not. Pray for redemption from past hurts and pains. I want them to look at how I lived and died! Know that no matter how gifted or talented they may be, at some point it will all fade away and when it does, I hope that they have the presence of mind to recognize that the only thing that matters is the faith they have in God to see them through their darkest hour. I believe it and I know it to be true now!
For me it is over but for everyone that is living and breathing, there is still hope! Even now after death, as news of my untimely demise spreads and my life's work is being played on every network station and radio station across the world, I feel nothing. I don't feel pride. I don't feel joy. I don't feel sadness. I don't feel anything at all. I only wish.

Love Don't Pay The Bills

 Dear Friend-Girl,
So what if I get a man to pay my bills and get them to keep me looking good. I deserve it! I work a 9 to 5 job! I work hard for what I got! I don't see anything wrong for getting someone else to pay for the extra things a woman like me need and deserve to have. Don't get mad at me because you are too dumb to think of doing it yourself.
Listen you can call it what you want either it be prostitution, high priced call-girl, mail order bride, WHATEVER! The only reason you say those things is because you got a man living in your house eating your food and not contributing to anything. He don't help you pay rent or utilities, he always got your car and brings it back on empty and he never helps around the house  like mowing the yard.
Every time we talk you always say how you don't have any money for this and that! I tried to call you the other day so we can go get our nails and hair done. Instead of going out and having girl time, you told me you couldn't go because you spent all of your money getting your car fixed!! Uh, don't you have a man for that?
Nah. If it was me, he would have been sitting on the curb with his little back pack of belongings waiting on traffic a long time ago!
A woman like me knows how to get what she need without having to lift a finger. You have to know how to use what you got to get what you need in this life sweetie. All of this equality stuff is just another ploy to keep you wanting and broke. 
A man is suppose to pay for EVERYTHING! Its his sole purpose in life. It is what he was designed for. Any man won't is no man at all. A man's desire is to have a beautiful woman on his arm and he will stop at nothing to get it. A real man understand his role in this and is willing to contribute. If he wants you to have bigger breasts or a bigger booty and a small waist then he should pay for the gym membership or pay for the appointment at the surgeon's office!
If he is looking to get some loving, then that doesn't come cheap either. A woman is going to need a new bed to live out all of his freaky little fantasies right? And if she is going to have a new bed then it need to come in a new house! So you can say what you want about me! I'm not the one looking broke busted and disgusted for the sake of love! Love don't pay the bills honey!
If you knew any better you would feel the same way I do and kick that lame ass good for nothing boy toy out of your house and get you a real man. Get you somebody that can take care of you financially so you don't have to worry about the small stuff! I'm Just Saying!

Deuces Wild

To The Father Of My Unborn Child,
There is nothing I wouldn't have done for you. Did you know that? All you had to do was come to me and tell me what was going on and I would have supported you. I would have stood by you but not only because I am pregnant with your child but because I love you and you are MY man and that is what a good woman is suppose to do. I know we are young and this baby came at a surprise. Hell, I still don't know if I'm ready to be a mom and I'm getting closer to my due date by the day! I'm hoping that everything will work itself out when the baby gets here.
I have to have faith that everything will be okay. But what I am most afraid of is the thought of you not being around to raise your son. You won't be around to teach him how to be a man, but how could you when you don't even know how to be one yourself! What happened to you? What happened to us? When did you decide this wasn't what you wanted because last month you were all for having a family and starting our lives together. Now, you tell me that you need some space to see where you want to be. I don't understand that. We have been together for two years and in that time we have moved in together and started a life together then all of a sudden I come home from work and find your things gone! Not one single note, or a phone call explaining why. But you have the nerve to go and tell your homeboy that you didn't thing the baby was yours and you have to get a paternity test before you can go any further with me?? Is that true?  I haven't been with anyone else but you and I think you know that. I just think you are scared of all this becoming real. Just call me  Come home and we will talk about it. I still love you.

To The Mother Of My Supposedly Unborn Baby,
You love me? How do you figure that? Girl, since the first day we were together you have been pressuring me to settle down with you.  You made it too easy for me. I never really wanted to be with you like that. But as time went on I developed feelings for you but I never REALLY loved you enough to marry you or want to start a family with you. I kept telling you that from the start but you wouldn't listen. I told you I didn't want kids right now but you didn't listen to that either. Oh so now I'm the bad guy for ending something I never should have started? Girl please!  You wanted a baby  and you didn't care how you got one. Damn Right I want a paternity test! I don't know that the baby you are carrying is mine and before I start giving you any more of my time and money, I want to know for sure.
See, I know about Tyrone, and Melve. How do you think I got your number way back then?  When I told them you were pregnant, they advised me to wait and make sure because you were known to do some foul things in the past. They told me everything on how you used to poke holes in their condoms and try to get pregnant! So you expect me to trust you? Hell Naw! I don't trust none of you females! I can't believe you writing me letters asking me what happened to us like we were a real couple. I just lived with you that year because my apartment got flooded and it was simple  just to live with you. You never made me pay rent so I saved money! So as far as me leaving? I left because I finally found a place to stay because you kept talking about marriage. I am not marrying you. I have feelings for you but I can't trust you to marry you.  But I told you all of this before so why are you trippin'?? Girl you better get your mind right, I'm serious. Get it together because right now you seem really crazy. Don't worry about me because I will be alright. I got mine, you need to get yours. Oh and by the way, I'm  coming by to drop off your house key you gave me. I won't be needing that anymore. Deuces!

Stubborn Stephanie's Still Single

Dear Diary,
Man, I sure am tired of giving my all to guys who don't give me anything in return. It seems like every guy I was ever interested in has either let me down or disappointed me in someway. More often than not, it happens after we have sex! My friends tell me I should wait and let a guy show me who he is before I go the distance but I don't want to wait! I want to have fun! I mean, guys do it, so why can't I? They tell me I should just enjoy meeting new people and keep an open mind about love and not be too shallow. I don't think I am shallow, its just that I like attractive guys!
My best friend told me that I should focus on school and keep my mind off of finding love. She says I should look for friendship in a guy instead of jumping into bed with them and thinking relationships happen that way. Only in the movies, not in real life! But I love romantic movies where the girl finds love unexpectedly!! I want that too. Why can't I bake my cake have it forever while nibbling off of it piece by piece daily?? I want a man, and not just any man.  I WANT MY OWN MAN!!
I am tired of being alone and I want to be loved and adored by somebody, but every time I commit, the guy I am seeing is never ready. Why not? I mean, I am cute, I am in school, so I am very intelligent and I work full time, so I have money! Why am I still single? I can't help who I fall in love with.
For instance, just last month I met a guy tending bar at my favorite Pub. He was sexy, and I was tipsy so I thought he should know how attractive he was to me. Hell, I was so tipsy, all the guys were looking pretty hot and tempting at that point!
Anyway, I go up to him, and ask him for his phone number, I said
"Oh My God, you are so cute right now! Are you single? If so, can I get your phone number? My name is Stephanie by the way!" 
He gave me his number without even saying a word. I got it like that! I can get any man I want just by asking. So, I call him up the next day and leave a message on his answering machine, and the next day he texts me back! I got so excited!
We have been texting each other for a month now and we've had sex a few times until I decided to want more.
So, one night after we meet up, usually in random places because he has roommates,
I ask him THE question. I say,  
"So, where are we going from here? Are we a couple now because I am really feeling you and I want to be your girlfriend." 
Then he looks down at his watch, then slowly looks up at me and says,
"I like you, I do. Its just that I have a lot going on right now and I can't complicate things with a girlfriend. You understand that right? But that doesn't mean we have to stop doing what we do because I really like you and I want to spend time with you."  
Well, he likes me and wants to spend time with me. That is what is most important right?
So, I continue to sex him at random places for a while. Then our meeting had gotten few and far between, so I started to call him and I kept getting the damn voicemail.  I am beginning to think he is avoiding me which sucks and now I feel unwanted, unloved and so empty inside.
I feel numb to the world and all I have is this hole in my heart where this guy should be. What do I do now? I know, I will find another guy to fill it! I saw this guy in the library that I go to often, and he looked cute, maybe I will start with him!

To The Reader,
The moral to this story is this: The cycle of fulfilling the desire for love with lust will continue until you decide you want more than just a fling. You say you want a relationship but all you are showing the other person in that relationship is a good time. Love doesn't happen through sex. It is cultivated over time of getting to know a person for who they are and allowing others to get to know you for who you really are. If you add sex to that equation, it only complicates things with fake emotions brought on by lust. Therefore you can't trust your feelings if you would have just left sex out of it. Take time to love the right way and not let your body dictate what your next move is. Conquer that inner lustful nature and you will find the natural flow of the human connection that we all long for. Good luck and God bless ya!